“Nearly all men can stand adversity, but if you want to test a man’s character, give him power.” -Abraham Lincoln
“Always bear in mind that your own resolution to succeed is more important than any other.” -Abraham Lincoln
“I do not think much of a man who is not wiser today than he was yesterday.” -Abraham Lincoln
(So, as you can see, I’ve been inspired by honest Abe today!)
When a new year begins, we look forward to the future and appreciate the fresh ‘start’ we’ve been given. While it’s good to look in the direction ahead of us, it is extremely important to reflect on the moments that have passed. There is a lot to learn from history, and what better way to self improve than to learn from past mistakes and/or situations. As I reflect on my own experiences from last year, I’ve come to realize that I’ve learned much more than I ever imagined possible. These life lessons will stay with me forever.
I cannot control it all: At one point in my life, I thought I could control it all. Over this past year, I’ve come to realize that I was sadly mistaken. Wedding planning has been my biggest teacher in this. Because I do like to control almost everything in my life (in more of an organized, detail-oriented, I want everything to be perfect kind of way), I thought (as did my mother… I know you did, ma!) that I’d tilt more toward a bridezilla type of bride. To everyone’s pleasure and surprise – I was anything but. I was easy going, relaxed, and didn’t have very many requests. There was one hiccup related to one of the vendors I originally booked, but instead of freaking over it (for more than half a day) I sought out a solution, with the help of very supportive friends. Going to problem solving vs. extreme hysterics served the situation well and proved to me that I can in fact ‘go with the flow.” In fact, on the day of my wedding, I was unusually calm. I let it all go. The planning had been done. My mini drama with the vendor was over and I booked someone else who ended up doing the most amazing job ever. So all in all, it worked out without the unnecessary need to control it.
I cannot do it all: I definitely still have lingering feelings that I can do it all, but this past year showed me to not be afraid to ask for help. No better situation proved this than helping to run a campaign, while wedding planning and continuing to conduct my makeup business as usual. I had a lot on my plate, yes. And I absolutely hit many roadblocks and nights of hysterics stemming from the extreme stress I felt. My husband has been the most important reason in me learning to ask for help when I need it. For whatever reason, my husband is extremely talented at prioritizing important tasks. He is calm under very stressful situations, in fact, he performs better when stressed. I, on the other hand, am the complete opposite. It is helpful to have perspective from him on how to handle a stressful situation in a much better way. Having this support system during such a crazy time has been the best teacher for me – in both asking for help and in taking a breath (or 2!) when feeling overwhelmed.
People will disappoint you at some point, trust your gut & be true to yourself: I’ve always been a bit naive to people lying to me, especially those I know well. Although it’s hard to believe that someone could outright lie, it does happen.. and the older I get, unfortunately, the more and more aware of it I become. It’s a harsh reality in getting older. As negative as that sounds (and I know I try my best to put a positive spin on things) it’s just the truth. I’ve become more suspicious of people’s intentions, which is sad, since at one time, I was definitely described as more gullible than anything. I am super honest and sometimes that bites me in the tush. But I really don’t care. I truly dislike lying and dishonesty. It’s hard for me to get past things when I know that someone or something is disingenuous. All I can do is be true to myself and uphold the high standard of morals of honesty & integrity I’ve been taught. Period.
I am on the right track, so I’m gonna keep on trucking: Starting a new business is tough. Starting a brand new career and a new business simultaneously is even more difficult – and that’s exactly what I did. The good news is that my first year in business went very well. I had many clients book me for weddings, proms, special events etc etc. And I am booking up quickly in 2015, with inquiries for 2016. Yay! Things are good for sure. However, the biggest teacher for me has been the Winter season. This is the time that the makeup jobs slow down a bit (at least this is my experience in the first year). I’ve had to remind myself over the past month that I am doing the right thing. I am in fact doing well and following my heart which has truly been the best decision I’ve ever made. However, these Winter months need to pass quickly (haha!). I can’t wait for the weddings I’ve booked this year and to see how happy my brides are on their most special day. I now know that feeling of being a bride myself and am so genuinely happy for these women. My clients are my inspiration in knowing that I need to keep trucking along, following my dreams and making people feel wonderful about themselves. It makes me happy 🙂
I am grateful and thankful for all lessons learned in 2014 since now I can apply them to life in the future, improving my world overall!